Court Tools

Any other resources you'd like to see published here? Let us know, we want our parents to be informed and prepared whether it be at home or in court, and we will do our very best to provide the most useful resources. 

Co-Parenting Apps

In high-conflict situations - especially those involving domestic violence or vitriolic communication - courts can order parents to communicate exclusively through co-parenting communication tools.

Parents do not need each other's telephone numbers, email addresses, or any other actual contact information to communicate through.

The following tools are free of charge or low-cost and help eliminate miscommunication, avoid arguments, and protect children from conflict.

Talking Parents

Talking Parents

Improve Accountability and Communicate Effectively.

Talking Parents is a free and fully secure co-parenting communication tool so you can focus on what matters.

This helps co-parents communicate and avoid disputes by maintaining an unalterable record of all conversations, important dates, and shared files. 

  • Secure 
  • Reliable
  • Accurate
  • Complete
  • Efficient
  • Formal 
  • Dependable
  • User Support

Create Your Free Account Today

Our Family Wizard

Keep your family moving forward.

OurFamilyWizard is a co-parenting tool for staying focused on the kids, not conflict.

Understand your parenting schedule at a glance. Manage shared parenting expenses and payments.

Share and store vital family details.

Document and organize your communication within one secure app.

Simplify requests for parenting time exchanges, reimbursements, and more.

Create Your Free Account Today

Family Law Facilitator's Office

The staff of the Family Law Facilitator's Office (FLF) is available, at no cost, to help unrepresented parents and parties who have questions about family law issues.

Help is provided through group workshops and walk in assistance. For walk in assistance, visit the FLF office at the courthouse where your court file is located

  • They can help prepare court forms and provide general legal information. The FLF is staffed by court attorneys, paralegals, and clerks with experience in family law.
  • The FLF does not assist parents or parties who have an attorney of record on file.
  • The attorneys at the FLF are not your lawyers, but are neutral court employees who do not represent any parent or party and may provide information and services to all parties in the case.
No time to wait in line? Schedule an appointment online, download the required forms and receive a checklist for the following Family Law Facilitator workshops:
  • Divorce, legal separation, nullity
  • Request for Order (custody/visitation, child support)
  • Finish My Case workshop (settlement agreements, default judgments)
  • **New** Video Chat (Skype for 15 minutes) Click here for more information about this new service.
Advantages of Online Registration for Workshops:
  • Save a trip to the courthouse.
  • Avoid spending time waiting in line for assistance.
  • Prevent not being prepared and having to return another day.
  • Save money by downloading required forms free of charge.
  • Schedule, cancel or reschedule reservation from this website

The FLF has developed a Message Board (MB) for self-represented litigants to make access to their case information simple and easy to find in one place. 

  • To register for the MB, visit the Family Law Facilitator’s Office. Once your identity is verified (make sure to bring government issued photo identification with you), you will be provided with information to open your case specific account.

For example, FLF may:

  • point out mistakes in your paperwork that need to be corrected before you proceed further (or tell you your case is ready to move forward),
  • provide options to help you resolve issues,
  • remind you of upcoming hearings,
  • or direct you other court online services and outside agency referrals.

It is also a way for you to access information about your case all in one place:

  • current and past messages from the FLF
  • court activity on your case (link to your case Register of Actions)
  • future court hearing dates, times, and locations
  • links to other self-help resources

Mediation Self Help

Child custody mediation gives parents a chance to resolve disagreements about a parenting plan for their children.  In mediation, the parents have the help of an expert (a mediator) in resolving these disagreements. If the parents are able to work out an agreement, the mediator helps the parents write a parenting plan that may then become a custody and visitation order if it is signed by a judge.

InfoSheets: Child Custody, Parenting Plan, RFO

Paternity Testing

Follow this link for a listing of court approved paternity testing providers.


Program Resource List: Court Approved Programs

POPS Organization is recognized by the Superior Court of California, County of San Diego as a program provider in the following areas:

Anger Management


Parenting Skills

Substance Awareness

Visitation Monitors


Any other resources you'd like to see published here? Let us know, we want our parents to be informed and prepared whether it be at home or in court, and we will do our very best to provide the most useful resources.